Love long distance
Tuesday, November 7th, 2006Love Long Distance
Be honest : when is the last time u heard of a succesful long distance relationship? i am not talking about three-month stint to complete ur degree overseas or wateverlah!! aku just nk story about serious love stories, the kind that makes u go all worm and fuzzy inside, the kind lasts more than one year with no hanky-panky in between n which ends with a nangis2 tearful reunion and marriage….. bagi aku lah real life ex: of succesful long-distance a few n far in between. ramai org pilih to give a long-distance relationship ni a try with the costant curiosity if it was the rite decision to make n if it even stands a chance…
The truth is, a long-distance relationship has just as much a chance of succeding as any other relationship!!! oh no!!! but is there anything i can do to make our odds of it workin out better??
ni aku nk story sket about my fwen….. ‘S’
S, a 22-year-old undergraduate, was separated from her bf of 2 years when he went to the UK to complete his post-graduate studies… she remembers the separation vividly "u tau x ab we had spent so much time together during those 2 years studying, partying, loving… and suddenly he was out of reach… padahal i could be next to him whenever i wanted just by calling a taxi.. With him in UK, that was not possoble anymore.. ‘S’ relationship did not survive the test..other men started to ngorat2 showing her attention while her bf was away, n she was sunyi enuff… to appriciate their attention,tapi nasib baiklah she didn’t have to be the one to end it.. ok blk pada bf dia tu.. her bf was having the same trouble, n when he called her one nite to break the news dat he’d found someone else aku pon xsure if she broke into tears of heartbreak or releaf…..
entah lah aku pon pelik.. bcz diorg tu bearly spoke to each other… smpi in d 1st month her phone bill soared to over RM1,000.. wow!!! giler.. azrul pon call aku once a week.. ok lah back to my fwen.. for instance, found herself rather glad she did not wait for her bf.. when she met him upon his return,he came back with an awful english accent n arrogance that she disliked immediately..ade slanglah..kwn aku ckp..before her bf left he was courteous,kind,even friendly just like myhubbu panbob… but now he was like "oh! u know in england we do this n we that…bla bla.. as though he were MAT SALLEH n not malaysian ank jati jawa mawi!! inilad die if u manage to stay in touch frequently,then u will grow with these change.ofcoz…tp bukan smua..but even then,u might find them unacceptable. one of the reasons that myfwen tired of the late nite phone borak2 with her bf..rare as they were,was bcoz all he ever cakap about was himself,"typical of people that study overseas,he began to think of himself as superior to the rest of us, i guess so.. not a lil’ bitterly…n her bf so berlagak lecturing her abut everything like a bloody uni lecturer! nasahat aku..to stay in touch is probably the hallmark of all successful long distance relationship..but the quality of our communication is even more penting bangat…even if our time to speak to each other is unlimited,make sure it’s time well spent..if either of us spends too much time cakap pasal problms pasal benda2 remeh simple2 ni..then all we do is make the conversations unhappy ones,full of anger n frustration.don.t waste time bickering about how one of us makes more effort than the other to call don’t waste time to nangis2 bcoz it only racks up the phone charges n makes the other person sad..n whatever we do,never accuse or hint at the other person being curang.tha’s when paranoia sets in,n when the sleepless nite begin…make an effort to make sure we bring joy to other person in our brief message. Remind him of all the things he loves about us..n remind ourselve about the things we love about him..jiwanglah sket..like me n mypanbob huhu..
the more smiles we send each other over the miles "bleh what,they can travel through phone lines n the internet lor.." the happier both of us will b.. rite?
ABSENCES MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER..
